So, do you think it is kosher to ask others to bring food to a wedding? You plan a meal after the ceremony and you ask others to bring it. Is this out of line, to be expected, or either way?
If you are planning a wedding and you want to have a nice meal afterward, should you pay for all of it? If you want a nice meal after the ceremony, but you don't really have the money, should you just NOT have it or is it fine to expect others to bring the meal? Is it a loving community that won't think anything of it? or should the parents and new couple not expect it? Would any parent expect any guest, friend or family to help pay for a dress that they could not afford? or decorations? or would they, as the parents, be expected to stay within their own spending limits? Is food something that we can ask people to take a part in concerning any planned event? Are things changing towards that direction, have they always been like this and I'm out of touch, or what? Is it o.k. to have people bring food to something that isn't exactly a pot-luck........or have them sign up for a certain dish, or assign them something you've chosen to be on the menu? Or hope that it all turns out and have no pre-meditated plans?
I guess my idea of a nice wedding is NOT to have a supper or any kind of meal. I think of cake, mints, yummy beautiful bubbly punch and salty nuts. All of this would be served on lovely little plates with ribbons everywhere.........bbq chicken or fajitas just don't sound very good to me, like it would squash the tradition of cake and punch.
I can't say that eating after a wedding is WRONG in any way, I guess I just don't think it is a time for a meal, but for something that isn't usually served.......delicate cake on little plates and scalloped napkins with a silver date and name stamped on them!
I like to know that the day of a wedding, that a huge meal is not in the making.............I would like to have all of the attention on things that flow easier than a kettle of spaghetti!!!!!
To see all the wedding guests come to the church with a crock-pot or a bowl of potatoe salad, all dressed up for a wedding.......well, something just doesn't sing in my mind. All of our family and friends should be as excited...............should we mix dumplings up with the preparations?
But, on the other hand, would it prolong the wonderful occasion by having a sit down meal with the ones you love..........eating food prepared by hands that are sharing in the joyful occasion?
BTW, there are no wedding plans being made here, I am just involved in a discussion about this with some other ladies and I came here to vent.
Any thoughts on this are welcomed........maybe I'm off?