I'm going to put short quotes to answer the question that arose about the book I am reading. I said it talked about divorce becoming easy and popular in the 20's to the 40's............
Daily Life in the United States 1920-1940
much courtship had taken place in the home according to well defined customs
men could, of course, decline to call, but if they did proceed they ventured into the woman's environment
"dating" began to replace calling early in the 20th century
cities offered greater possibilities outside the home
courting couples began going on dates
lovers lane entered the vocabulary
dates cost money
men gained control over the choice of partner and the entire process
dating soon ceased to be just a search for a mate
it became a primary means for casual social entertainment
the more numerous and varied the dates and the higher the standing of the person's dated, the higher one's status
dating brought with it freer attitudes......
dating exposed many young people to a greater varitey of potential partners, the decision to marry was cast in a new light
the most common justification offered in court for the few divorces of the 1880's was that he wasn't and adequate provider or she didn't carry out her duties in the home
by the 1920's fewer persons participated in family economies such as farming.........more people were involved in work settings where cash wages allowed individuals to purchase daily necessities
the mutual dependency in dealing with various basic life functions.......began to diminish
a new notion emerged, popularized by psychologists...... that a successful marriage was based primarily on affection and companionship
couples unable or unwilling to do so (resolve difficulties) were better off separating
some but not all states eased divorce requirements
We know it is sin that causes divorce, but this was interesting to see somebody break it down, sad but interesting.
My husband is teaching church history and says this often......"these changes did not come about overnight." They happened little bits at a time. People accepting wrong thinking it wouldn't hurt. Nobody notices, then one day you have this HUGE issue you have to deal with.
Divorce, heretical churches, no separation standards, can't do this or that to your kids cause they will report you..........breakdowns do NOT happen overnight.
If someone has the come-aparts today, they were NOT o.k. yesterday.
Be careful of the little sins, the things you think won't matter. All of it matters.
Don't let anything get by you that needs to be stopped.
a quote from Fiddler on the Roof.........where will it end? where will it end?